Hello guys, welcome back to my blog! I am currently sitting outside my LA apartment at 9 this morning, typing this out before it gets too hot. It is the end of October, and yet today is going to be a 90 degree day. 

I was having a conversation with one of my friends the other day, because she found a ring box in her cupboard. She refused to open it of course, because she did not want to spoil the surprise, but I remember her getting so excited because it meant that she will hopefully be getting engaged. This sparked a lot of excitement, because I couldn’t be happier for her, but it also made me realize how crazy it is that we are finally at that age where normal people are starting to create families for themselves.

Being in your 20s is such an interesting experience because everyone is in different phases, and big life moments are happening at different times for everyone. Some of us are dating, some of us are married, some of us are married with children, and some of us are still in the club (nothing wrong with that!). In a period of time where so many things are happening to people at such rapid times, sometimes I find it hard not to compare myself.

Now, when I say I compare myself, I by no means am insinuating that I am not proud of where I am, or what part of my life I am in. However, because you get so caught up in your life, it can be crazy to see people that I once knew, or people who I am friends with, get things at quicker rates, and make you think you are falling behind.

I am beating a dead horse when I say that comparison is the thief of joy, and that social media is the catalyst for comparison, but it is so true. One of the reasons why I do not have it anymore is because every time I clicked on it, I found myself being drawn into what other people have, and putting energy into other peoples lives, that it made me lose the gratitude in my own. No matter how much we love our lives, spending time looking at curated content for views can make us forget what we have to be grateful for, or make us yearn for a life we do not have yet. 

I find that it has been most helpful to genuinely just exist in my own world more, and invest energy into my life and no one else’s. Instead of scrolling and liking other people’s highlight reels, I invest my energy into my own highlights – investing in hobbies, activities, and relationships that genuinely make me feel the most alive, and bring me the greatest joy. By romanticizing my own life, and living in my own world to create my own happiness, I no longer care about the reels of others, especially strangers online. 

No matter what, no matter how well I think I am doing, of course I find myself comparing every once in a while – I am only human. But I try to remember that my life is happening exactly the way it is supposed to, when it is supposed to. Life is not a race, and no one starts at the same place. I wanted to share the thing I have been dealing with this week, and the ways in which I cope with it, which is putting energy back into my own life. 

Maybe it works for you guys, and I would love to hear what you find yourself comparing yourself to!